My husband and I are currently in a disagreement about a big issue. It is the issue of owning a TV or not. Originally, we agreed (though I was kicking and screaming) to not have a TV for our first year of marriage. We both liked the idea of not having the temptation of coming home after work and just vegging out in front of the TV instead of having meaningful conversation with one another. I did think that we could still have a TV and just monitor how much we watched but because I was so excited about getting married and I figured that I could do anything for a year-we decided (together) to not have one. It really was nice that first year without a TV. I feel like we talked more and enjoyed longer dinners. We were also in bed earlier, which was good for our overall health. Also, it is important to mention that we discovered Hulu and watched a fair amount of TV shows that way. It was nice to be able to control when and how much we would watch. Plus we couldn’t just have it on in the background as noise (as I did when I lived with roommates and we had a TV). When we watched Hulu it was pretty purposeful.
After our first year of marriage we were able to buy a home and according to my husband “a TV wasn’t in the budget.” Again, I kicked and screamed and tried to find one on craigslist at a better price but to no avail. He wouldn’t budge. Hmm…that is weird. According to our original agreement we should have already bought a TV. I kept wondering why he didn’t want to go to Best Buy or Fry’s and look at TVs and discuss which one we would like to get. I thought this would be every man’s dream come true-to get a blank check to go and pick out his very own TV. I would even encourage him to go with a couple of his buddies and check out the new TVs but still he wouldn’t go.
Now it’s been 2.5 years without a TV. Life hasn’t been horrible or boring without one but I do miss cuddling up on the couch on a Friday night to watch a movie. I would love to have a TV and get cable and have a thousand channels but I am ok with getting a TV and just having Hulu or Netflix. I mean, geez, cable is expensive. Recently I brought this issue back to the table with my husband. His response, “If you still want a TV then we are on fundamentally different pages about the raising of our daughter.” Wow-Can I say bitch-slapped? What? We had an agreement, remember? Whatever happened to that? Besides the fact that that single statement made me feel like I was a horrible parent because I was ok having a TV in the house. Since when did TV equal dumb kids? I know, I know….studies show…yadda, yadda, yadda. And it’s true. Studies do show that too much TV can be detrimental to the mental, physical, and emotional development of children, especially children under the age of two. I get that but all I’m asking for is a Friday night movie on the couch. It’s not like we aren’t watching TV now. We watch Modern Family, The Office, Parenthood, etc all via Hulu on my 15” laptop. I also believe that TV can be utilized as a learning tool but you have to be proactive and disciplined in its use.
Maybe I need to just let this go and be thankful that we even have the option of buying a TV. What are your thoughts? Do you have a TV? Did you make a purposeful decision when either buying one or choosing not to?